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4 Keys To A Good Marriage

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My wife Joanne and I have just celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary.
The time has flown by since we said “I do” and life has changed.
We now have two beautiful children and our work, housing, and interests have changed over time.
There are several things that we have implemented in our relationship early on that have served us well in the journey so far, and will continue to serve us in the future.
I wanted to write down 4 of these things as a constant reminder to myself, but also for anyone else who is on this journey of a lifetime.
I chose these 4 things not because they are exhaustive, but because I often encounter the opposite of these things as prevalent relationship advice in our culture.

Just a very quick note to say that although these keys are built around the idea of continued commitment to our partner, if you are in an abusive relationship, either mentally, emotionally, or physically, please get out of that relationship as soon as is safe to do so. You are under no oblig…

Eco-Theology - A Christian Theology of Environmentalism

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THEOLOGY | 3 MINUTE READ

As Christians, our theology forms the compass of what we do in our daily lives.

If we believe that God is good and full of love then this will be how we treat others. It is the same with regards to environmental concern.

If we have a theology that tells us the whole world will be burned up and so there is no point caring for it, then this will be how we treat the earth.
Eco-Theology I believe that scripture provides a blueprint for environmental concern that helps to act as a compass in our discipleship journey.
The Beginning
Right from the beginning in scripture, in the book of Genesis, we are called to be stewards of the earth. We are called to look after and care for the earth.

Genesis 1:27-29
So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.

God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the…

COURAGE – The Virtue That Undergirds All Other Virtues

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DISCIPLESHIP | 3 1/2 Minute Read

Several years ago my friend ended up in hospital.

His wife was worried so we asked if there was anything that we could do.
She asked, as she does not drive and has young children, if I would pick up his phone charger and drive it over to the hospital as he had no phone battery and she was unaware how he was doing.
It was 9 o’clock on a work night.
I had never been to that particular hospital, nor had I ever driven in the city where the hospital was.
The charger in our car didn’t work and I had a low battery, so I would have no satellite navigation or maps to get there and would have to rely on signposts and directions.
Did I mention that I hate driving?
It makes me very anxious.
Every time I get in a car I wonder if I will be another statistic.
All of these excuses swirled in my mind at the thought of making this journey and ultimately I decided to decline.
I did not have the courage to go.
I think about this moment often. About the time that I let dow…

C. S. Lewis, God, Myth, Evolution & The Problem Of Suffering - What I Learnt In March

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THEOLOGY | 8 Min Read

Each month I share some of the things that I have been learning, and the resources that I am using. My hope is to inspire you in your own personal learning and point to some helpful resources.

This month I learnt a lot – from lots of different places. Therefore, rather than going through the individual sources I used to learn, I have decided to draw together some common themes from those resources.

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Resources C.S. Lewis
This month has been quite a C.S. Lewis month. From his works I read Mere Christianity, The Screwtape Letters, The Problem of Pain, The Great Divorce, and Miracles. I thoroughly enjoyed every single book. If you want to get into C. S. Lewis and don’t know where to start then I highly recommend checking out C. S. Lewis Doodle on Youtube.  Inspiration and Incarnat…

The Surprising Truth About The Differences Between The Temptation Narratives of Matthew and Luke and What They Teach Us About Overcoming Temptation

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5 MINUTE READ
We are now well intoLent, one of the two great fasts in the Christian Calendar (along with Advent).

Lent is the time when we contemplate Christ’s sacrifice, along with Christ’s 40 days of temptation in the wilderness.

When we give up things for Lent we find ourselves tempted in similar, yet far less extreme, circumstances (Let’s be honest, who wants to hang out in the wilderness by themselves for 40 days and eat and drink nothing; I can barely handle giving up chocolate!).

Much writing during this time consists of looking at the temptations of Jesus, and how Jesus overcame them as a template for our own overcoming of temptations.

But in this post, I do not intend to look at the traditional views, but rather to look at the differences between how Matthew and Luke told the story of Christ’s temptation and what we can learn from these differences.

Let’s look at them now. Why Differences are OK We do not like to discuss differences in accounts of Christ’s life.

Many scholars…

Shame Resilience, Minimalism, and Saving the Environment – What I Learnt In February

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If you have been looking for new resources to learn from – whether whole books or short articles or if you just fancy some bite-sized learning then this post is for you.

Here are some things that I have learnt this month.
I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t) – Brene Brown - Book* I highly recommend this book* – if you haven’t read it, then buy it or borrow it.
Brene Brown is a world-renowned researcher on shame. I was first exposed to her work through her amazing Ted Talks.
In this book, Brene introduces us to her research on shame and defines what shame is.
What is Shame She starts by differentiating between shame and similar emotions, such as guilt and embarrassment.

One of the most powerful parts of this book for me was the difference between shame and guilt.
Brene describes it like this:
Imagine that you have just cheated on a test, you leave the exam feeling guilty. Your internal dialogue runs like this: “cheating is wrong, I should not have cheated, I feel bad for having chea…